We were born in the digital age and technology has played such a large role in other aspects of our life. So it’s natural that many people naturally gravitated towards meeting someone online.
I openly admit that I am one of those people. I’ve meet a fair share of guys online, and have quite a few stories to tell. Online dating has been a blessing in disguise for me. First, I could meet guys without leaving my bed and I could filter out those that I wasn’t compatible with. Meeting them online helped me test them out in a “try before you buy” type of way. I’ve also met a few characters that have taught me a lot about men and myself. From the smooth talker whose conversation never got boring, to the creepy guy that randomly showed up at my job. There were lessons in all of my dating encounters.
I’ve also made a few really good friends and I got to experience dating without the heartbreak (for the most part). Online dating gave me confidence to not be afraid to be myself. Getting rejected over the Internet didn’t hurt as bad as getting rejected in real life, so I had nothing to lose.
I’m not on as often as I’ve been in the past, because I’m trying to stop controlling my love life by swiping left or right. I just want it to come naturally. But I still get on Tinder from time to time, so here are a few tips for anyone that is open to give online dating a shot!
- Your Bio (and Grammar) Matters
Aside from the pictures, the bio is your first introduction. You can tell so much about a guy just by reading how he describes himself. If “just ask” or “hmu” is the only thing he writes, quickly exit out of his profile. Anyone that is too lazy to write about who they are isn’t worth talking to. If there isn’t substance in a bio, then the outreach is solely based on looks, and everyone knows that looks don’t mean anything if his head isn’t on straight.
- Good conversation is hard to come by, so don’t be lazy
I HATE dry conversations! It’s hard to get to know someone without talking to them in person or on the phone, so don’t make it worse by being a lazy conversationalist. Ask them a bunch of questions – random ones if you run out of things to write about. Like what superpower would they want, or what’s their favorite holiday. Please don’t be boring!
- Facebook stalking is apart of your research
Blame it on working in PR, but I look a guy up on every site possible before giving out my phone number. Avoid being Catfished by know who you’re talking to! Just don’t get caught liking a picture on Instagram if you don’t follow him.
- Remember your personal brand
Make sure your profile is something that you wouldn’t be ashamed of if your mom saw it. Put up pics that represents you well and shows the brilliant woman that you are.
- Forget the stigma
Some people look down on online dating. Granted, it’s not for everyone but what way of meeting people is? Everyone isn’t going to meet bae at the grocery store or at church. Different strokes for different folks, so there’s nothing wrong with setting up a profile on Tinder, POF or any other dating site out there! You may find love, or you may find a good friend that has a cute cousin that would be perfect for you. You never know, but either is a win if you ask me. Just make sure you’re precautious and aware of the red flags, but do your thing girl! J
Have you tried online dating? I’d love to hear your stories or tips to be someone’s Tinderella! Share in comments below!