Everyone enjoys the “honeymoon” stage of dating someone new. The butterflies when you’re around them. And the instant smile that comes to your face just seeing their name appear on your phone. It’s undeniable that embarking into a new relationship is exciting especially if you’re with someone you can be your true self with. But what’s even more exciting is that this feeling doesn’t ever have to go away! I believe if both individuals make a conscious effort to grow through the inevitable obstacles they’ll face, maybe they won’t yearn to have a rewind button back to the honeymoon stage as time progresses.
The beginning of every new endeavor is important because it’s the foundation of the journey. Establishing a strong foundation is imperative in nurturing a new relationship. If the foundation is weak such as being caught up in the superficial and materialistic aspects of a person; rather than whom they are as an individual and what they want out of life, the relationship will surely crumble. But if the proper time is taken to genuinely learn about your beau and form a connection beyond the physical then a successful relationship may definitely be in your future… if it’s right for the both of you.
Now, my boyfriend and I aren’t perfect (but we’re pretty close to it…lol). However, I wanted to share a few things that I feel we got “right” while dating, that has made our transition into a committed, healthy and fun relationship all the more easier.
- Take your time. I am impatient in nature and this was a hard pill for me to swallow while we were dating. I was very patient when we first began dating because I wasn’t looking to rush into anything. However, once we really got to know each other and I realized I really liked him, I was ready to be a girlfriend. But he wasn’t ready for that for reasons that we discussed and I understood. Since I liked him I was willing to continue dating at his pace. But the time we took dating (9 whole months!) was the best thing for us. By the time we entered our relationship I felt I knew him extremely well and I was confident in our ability to be compatible.
- Social Media is a no, no! It’s far too common that in this day in age people look for validation from social media. Nurturing your new relationship is a delicate act that everyone shouldn’t be privy to. The reality is everyone isn’t going to be happy for you. And before you subject your relationship to outside opinion, be sure your foundation is immovable.
- Ask LOTS and LOTS of questions! There is so much to learn about people, their journey and their dreams…it’s intriguing. So, I found a list of questions that I could ask while getting to know my beau. And it helps to dig deeper with the person other than “How many siblings do you have?” “When is your birthday?”…BORING! I asked things like “What is one thing you would be disappointed if you never experienced it?” We answered the same. Marriage. Hmm, it puts in perspective what is important to them and can reveal if you all share similar values. I also asked, “What is your most bizarre pet peeve?” “What’s been your favorite age so far?” and even silly things like “If you were a performing artist, what would you name your first album?” It’s just a fun way to get to know a potential beau.
This is my favorite list to pull questions from 🙂
Once you’ve found someone you believe you can grow and build with, it won’t be hard to build a strong foundation for you both to stand on. And the honeymoon stage won’t end unless you all stop trying. It definitely requires time, commitment and selflessness to nurture a growing relationship. But when you’re ready, it’ll be worth it!
What is important to you when getting to know someone? What qualities do admire most in a potential suitor? I’d love to hear from you!