Health & Beauty, Wellness

Pour Into Yourself First: 3 Tips for Maintaining a Brilliant Wellbeing

Last fall, in preparation of launching Becoming Brilliance we attended a panel event for #BlackCreatives. This panel was compiled of several young, black professionals excelling in the field of media and communications as bloggers, authors and media personalities. During the Q&A portion, an attendee asked about maintaining your sanity while chasing your dreams as a black creative and one panelist formulated a response that I now remind myself of daily.  She said, “you can’t pour out to others if you don’t pour into yourself first…Me taking care of myself will help me, help others.”

It’s nice if you’re always the dependable friend or the most effective at multitasking. But it’s simple really…you cannot pour from an empty glass. If you’re not taking the time to focus on your mental, physical and spiritual wellbeing, it will surely diminish the quality of your work. And you will also be doing those around you a disservice by not being able to offer them the best version of you.

February is known as the month of lovey, dovey madness with cute couples, teddy bears and candy galore. But our first blog post for the month of February is about loving yourself enough to take care of YOU first. Here are 3 tips for maintaining a BRILLIANT wellbeing:

  1. Incorporate “me” time daily

When life is really busy, we often feel like there aren’t enough hours in the day for everything. But one thing about “me” time is it doesn’t always have to expand over a large frame of time. It can be as simple as getting up from your computer for an hour and going to do anything that has nothing to do with work. Go to lunch by yourself. Go for a stroll just to clear your mind. You owe it to yourself to allot at least an hour daily in an effort to remain sane. Since I enjoy cooking, the time I use to prepare dinner in the evening is my daily “me” time to unwind from it all.  I also recommend a daily workout to help decompress while also working towards the betterment of you physically.

  1. Schedule a wellbeing day or weekend like you would a business meeting or event

In an effort to accommodate everyone in our lives, personal or professional, we may neglect time we set aside for ourselves to attend others engagements. The same way it’s set in stone that you must attend that business meeting next Tuesday afternoon, be sure it’s also set in stone that next Friday evening belongs to you for whatever your heart desires. Balance is essential to living a healthy and happy life. If you constantly neglect the things you would like to do to appease others, what does that say about how important you are to yourself?

  1. Reward yourself!

Now, if every hour in a day just has to go towards this huge project for work or a new entrepreneurial venture you’ve embarked on, just remember to reward yourself for the dedication you’ve had over that particular amount of time. Travel to a new place with friends or take the time to do something you’ve always wanted to do like skydiving. The journey of reaching goals you’ve set for yourself is a road of sacrifice but as you achieve more, don’t forget you’ve earned the opportunity to recharge and then continue the journey.

Just be mindful to pour into yourself first. If you aren’t filled with the energy, innovations and motivation you need, there will be nothing for you to pour into others. You have to take care of yourself first; no one can do it for you.

What are your favorite things to do during “me” time? How often do you set aside time to dedicate for your mental, physical and spiritual wellbeing? I love hearing from you all.


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  • Reply Elisa Patrick

    Great read. These are the keys to a happy and healthy life. I stress this to people daily. The moment I decided to incorporate these 3 changes in my life, it got better. My stress level went down, my mood became better, my sleeping pattern improved and so did the love for myself. Great article! Thanks.

    February 4, 2016 at 3:24 am
    • Reply

      Thank you for reading Elisa! So excited that you’ve taken the time to focus on your well-being, it’s imperative. We appreciate your support.

      February 4, 2016 at 5:24 pm
  • Reply Sheena

    This is something that most women need to embrace more. This is key in giving your best you to others but you must give your best to you first. Awesome article!

    February 11, 2016 at 10:32 am
    • Reply

      Thanks Sheena! Glad you’re pouring into yourself too.

      February 14, 2016 at 9:31 pm

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